“Action is eloquence.”

William Shakespeare —Volumnia in Coriolanus

In my last post I pondered on the ‘wonderfulness of women’ – but I am in awe of the magnificence of men! Like the women in my life I’ve been blessed and surrounded by men who have been nurturing, strong, kind and supportive!

Anyone who knows me from yonder years – those especially close to me know I only ever wanted to travel – marriage and kids were not in the life plan!

I returned home one summer the summer of 1995 from America with plans to travel the world – I decided to spend a year at home to save the pennies! A few weeks in I met Dishwasher man – I knew as soon as I met him we would be together! What was it that drew me to him? It was his kindness, gentleness and depth of character (his looks were the extra bonus – sorry to be a tad fickle)!

Fast forward Dishwasher Dads illness of cancer – I knew he was going to die – I knew my Cup George as well as the girls would need role models of maleness!

I’m fortunate within the family and among my friends because the males have really ‘stepped up’ – I did put strategies in place before Gary died so that outings and connections were formed and therefore they were not alien encounters after Gary died (it was hard to set these up when Gary was still with us but proved invaluable after he was gone!)

As much as I am, I realise my wee male Cup needs the tumbles, the roughness, the boy talk, that testosterone, nerf guns, farming, quads and motor bikes – his male role models are family, friends, strangers, coaches and other dads – you have been there in moments in our home, your home, the caravan, holidays, rugby, football, school, panto….

Thankyou –  because you males have proved as the Bard said, “Action is eloquence.”

I went to get my hair cut tonight and the Cup who is George went for a motorbike ride and then started to design his new go-cart!!

Just to let you know – after meeting Dishwashing man in the summer of 1995 we courted for year and then he supported me to travel the world for eight months on my own – he told me, ‘that’s what I love about you Tracey – your sense of adventure, and spirit!’ – isn’t that what we all want – a Prince Charming who supports us to travel the world and nurture our souls !!