It’s that moment which you think about, it’s that moment which keeps you going, it’s that moment, you create.

We all have our own ‘toffee crisp’ moments, daily, weekly or in life!

The daily moment is integral to our wellbeing, it may be the only moment in the day which is truly yours.. No-one is shouting your name, no chores are imminent and there is just ‘a me’ in my moment…

Mine is in the morning at 6am, I take my mug of milky coffee in the same Cup given to me by Bhavna and Girish when I was their nanny, aged 18. Noone in our home uses my Cup, it is all mine.. When I drink my coffee, I sit, I am still and I am in the moment..it is called Mindfulness now, but since my early teens I have had my early morning moments, and it is only in the last six months that these moments have returned with anticipation, eagerness and regularity, and I know it is because my journey of grief is easing into my daily life more comfortably.

My weekly ‘toffee crisp’ moment is most definitely Friday late afternoon, ever since I was a little girl my friend Melanie and I had Friday playdates, as I got older and went to Uni, I never studied on a Friday.. After Gary died I went to bed every Friday afternoon for a couple of hours, I couldn’t face the weekend without him, I missed the anticipation of weekend family fun, the eagerness was lost and excitement was gone.. Now four years later Friday afternoons are returning to bubbles of ‘crispy toffee fun’ filled with teenage antics and that’s just from Dishwashing mum!

My ‘toffee crisp’ moment in life is harder to pin point but I feel it was the moment I set off to travel the world! It had been my dream since 14.. I can recall kissing Dishwasher man ‘goodbye’, and thinking, ‘this is it!’ Again anticipation, excitement and eagerness abounded.. My travels have supported my journey of grief, travel taught me to embrace change, navigate unfamiliarity and embrace feelings of fear, uncertainty and know, ‘I can do this, I have done it!’

Thankyou to the special mum last week who told me about her ‘toffee crisp’ moment each evening, the moment that’s hers, all hers…as we sat together all the mums, we each thought of our own, ‘toffee crisp’ moment and its importance in our life daily, we just debated fridgerated or melting toffee crisps!

Therein lies the reality, however we like our ‘toffee crisp’, whenever we eat our ‘toffee crisp’ or whatever that ‘toffee crisp’ moment is, we should all be having it.. We all need and deserve it xox